Over the past 22 years I’ve worked with thousands of therapy and coaching clients on their life, relationships, careers and of course, body love. If there’s no name tied to a comment, it’s because the person was open to sharing their experience, but did not want to include their name (or full name) for privacy reasons. Here are just a few of my faves that reflect the variety of issues I help people with.
“One of the most powerful exercises I’ve ever done was when we brainstormed all of the ways my negative body image shows up in my life. I thought after 5 minutes I had everything down. But that hadn’t even been the truth. The real story came out after all of the “reflex responses” had been used up. The real gift in that is that I was able to then finally explore parts of the story I had been ignoring for nearly 15 years. I know I’ve still got a long way to go, but after all this time, I actually see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you.”
“I have struggled with negative body image my whole life. I thought I would never ever get to the point where I didn’t obsess about it every day. That just seemed like a complete impossibility. Since working with you however, I see glimpses of freedom. Yesterday I almost went the entire day without beating myself up about what I did not did not eat. And every time I feel myself going back to self-hating and self-shaming, I use the tools you’ve taught me to try and tell a different story. I finally have hope for what could be. Thank you!” – Kathy
“You’re like a warm hug at the end of of a hard day. I feel so relaxed and safe to explore everything I’m feeling with you. And you make all of the next steps I want to take seem so possible. Through our work I’ve not only improved my relationship with my husband and co-workers, but I’ve leveled up my relationship with myself… the most important relationship of all. Your kindness coupled with some serious tough love when I needed it most have helped me to finally start making progress on creating a life I’ve only been dreaming about for too long.” – Michelle
“God, I was soooo stuck. I spent hours and hours every day asking myself, “Should I say or should I go?” Thanks to you I finally discovered the answer. Thanks by the way for letting me get their on my own. You always know what questions to ask. I cannot thank you enough for helping me get to this place.” – Nan
“Every time we talk I leave feeling so much lighter. I wish I could afford to see you every day:)” – Christine
“I’ve been to a lot of therapists in my life and so many of them just sat there while I rambled on and on and I never felt like I was getting anywhere. Your approach struck a really good balance between listening, challenging and guiding. Even though it makes my husband crazy, I always go home and ask him some of the questions you’ve asked me. Something interesting always comes of those discussions.” – Amy
“I loved that exercise you had me do for my “homework” – I don’t remember the name of it – where you had me complete all of those sentences. They were questions I’d never even thought about but they made so much sense. I love our sessions because you always give me something to do or think about and I feel like I’m finally getting somewhere.” – Kim
“I was so nervous when I left your office today. I knew I wanted to have that conversion and I was ready for it, but every time I thought about telling my husband what I wanted I’d panic. Role playing all of the possible responses was so helpful and writing down the absolute worst case scenarios made me less anxious about them. The conversation did not go exactly as I’d hoped, but the important part was that I felt strong and empowered and I didn’t back down like I normally do. You keep reminding me every week that this is a process and I just have to let it play out a little. Most of the time I kind of want to punch you when you say that:) but when things like this happen, I see what you mean. Something unexpected always comes up but it always seems to be exactly what I need to deal with. I cannot tell you how grateful I am to have you as my therapist and coach.”
“Woo woo, I just had the hardest conversation of my life! It felt like physically I wasn’t going to be able to get the words out. But once I did, it wasn’t as bad as I thought. Thank you so much for helping me get to this point. It’s been such a long time coming and even though I’m not sure what’s going to happen next, at least now I can move in a new direction.”
“Thank you Melani for everything you did to help me figure out what path I wanted to take in my career, how to negotiate the right job with the right salary, and get me moving toward a future I feel excited about. Just knowing that you believed I could do it was huge! Thank you, thank you, thank you!” – Alex
“If you want to be challenged, pushed and loved through a massive reinvention, hire Melani. Nothing will be the same after that. Thank you from the bottom of my upgraded self.” – Kathy M
“You’re the third career counselor I worked with. I’d had two bad experiences with others, but something told me you were going to be different. I’m so glad I listened to my gut. You’re like this compassionate therapist and loving kick in the butt coach who has a crazy amount of knowledge and experience in so many areas. The tools and strategies and specific ideas you shared with me totally changed the way I approached my job and made me ready to make the career change I’d been wanting to make for years. I’ll be telling everyone who’ll listen about you!” – Kim L.
“I just want to say thank you so much for everything you’ve done. I’ve felt stuck in my career for so long and it just seemed like I’d never be able to do everything I’d need to do to make a change. You made it seem like not a big deal and that made me start seeing it the same way. I was less afraid to take a step forward when it didn’t feel so big and now I’m so much further along than I ever thought. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel already.”