Over the years I’ve had a lot of clients who’re coach hoppers. They hop around looking for the one who’ll give them the silver bullet. The magic answer that’ll give them what they want. If they don’t get it, they assume it was the coach’s fault. Similarly, they come to coaching looking for a complicated
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A few years ago I took myself out of the online game. I shut down all of my social media accounts. I wanted out. I was bored. Bored reading quotes and words masquerading as inspiration. Bored by the sameness, pictures of vacations, and the ”Oh my god I can’t believe how amazing my life is”
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1. Not everyone will get you, like you, or care about you. Don’t waste time on those people. Ever. Good begets good; so, surround yourself with people who see you and love you no matter what. 2. Pick a talent path. Do not squander your goods. See them and share them and know that just
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The person we are changes all of the time. As long as we’re still alive and kicking, it’s never too late to change either our minds or our situations, and maybe both. I’m not sure who said this, otherwise I would give credit where credit is due, but I remember hearing in graduate school that
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Without question, the apology letter is the letter people struggle with most. Whether the apology is coming days after an event or years later, it’s hard to say you’re sorry. If you’re struggling to apologize, you’re probably holding on to some guilt, regret, shame or even embarrassment about what you did. That’s a lot to
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I started writing love letters when I was 16. I wrote them to my high school and college sweetheart. For every 10 I wrote, he probably wrote one back. Maybe. At first I used to be sad that he didn’t write me more. (Seriously, what 16 year old boy would write love letters?) However, when
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In 1998, when I was 27 years old, my mom gave me the book, The Art of Doing Nothing: Simple Ways to Make Time for Yourself. I said, ”Thanks, mom” while thinking, ‘You don’t really know me at all, do you?’ Seventeen years later she said to me, “Mel, what if you stopped doing so
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”Every mother contains her daughter in herself and every daughter her mother, and every woman extends backwards into her mother and forward into her daughter.” – Carl Jung, The Collected Works Eating Something funky went on in my house, or should I say DIDN’T go on in my house, that for a long time I thought
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All blogs have a first post. They’re at once excited to be first, because being first is brilliant. But they’re also sad, because they feel naked. I have written over a thousand posts for my own blogs. At least. In the past 11 years. Some of them still live somewhere out there. Most have been
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